What is bdsm? Myths & Facts

You have probably heard this term many times but what is BDSM? It is a variety of practices and roleplays including dominance, submission, bondage, discipline and sadomasochism. People that practice such sex games use different additional tools or equipment for maximum joy.

A lot of people discovered that having a sex with sweet kisses, changing a few positions and talking to partners dirty is not enough. Some people want to try BDSM only after watching porn videos of the specific category, some create various thoughts after seeing the toys for adults, while others just crave having a hardcore sex…

Why BDSM Sex?

The majority of people that are interested in BDSM like to dominate or submit. Usually, men prefer to dominate. It is men’s nature to lead in any department of life. Therefore, playing dominant roles while having sex with a partner, men express themselves and fulfill hidden desires.

It is a fact that a lot of women want to be submitted. Doing the things that a man asks for is a joy for millions of women around the world. The idea of showing the best of themselves and challenging makes women try BDSM roles. However, there are a lot of men that are willing to kneel in front of women and make any of their sexual desires come true as well.

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For example, a lot of women consider being a BDSM slave wrong and offensive. Probably, women that think so are feminists and having the same rights as men in bed is not less significant for them. Sex roleplays are not only physical manipulation but mental. Women enjoy submitting, especially in bed. Letting the need of control go and becoming completely free makes ladies love sex even more. Some men crave to submit as well. Actually, a lot of guys watch femdom BDSM and dream of playing a slave for real.

When Toys Become a Kind of Fetish

Roleplays become more realistic and bring more joy when using fetish. The most common adult toys for sadomasochism sex are handcuffs, whip ropes, neck restraints and ball restraints for the mouth. However, there are much more tools and equipment that can be used for having extra sensational pleasure.

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Swings for sex made of leather are very popular among couples that enjoy having sex “in the air”.

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A dildo for a BDSM mistress is also in demand among women that enjoy lesbian games.

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As a matter of fact, a lot of people would like to try BDSM. Unfortunately, not many women and men can easily express the desire to have a wild sex and using fetish like handcuffs or a leather whip rope because of the social pressure.

Myths about BDSM

If you think that choosing whether you are vanilla or kinky is a must, you are wrong. Everyone finds their own place in BDSM. Some people enjoy practicing roles and have hardcore BDSM spanking. However, a lot of men and women find dressing up in S&M clothing exciting. Some people simply like the idea of being slapped or tied up but they will not use any leather or metal stuff.

Those that are against BDSM say that such games are dangerous. Crossing the road is dangerous too. It depends on how careful you are. Even if you want to try the smallest size dildo you must know what you are doing. You better care about who you are having sex games with.

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If you are interested in experiencing new sensations, try a BDSM chat first. There are quite a lot of sites that offer sex chats using fetish. Choose what you prefer to do, dominate or be submitted, and enjoy sex games with the experienced partners online. See if you like such way of getting satisfied and offer your partner to try it in your bedroom. Pick the role that suits your character or mood and tell your partner what you want him or her to do for you. Get a basic set of toys that consists of handcuffs and an eye blinder to at least try if you both will enjoy the game.

Another curious idea is to visit a BDSM club. There you can have a drink, dance and meet people that will tell you a lot of interesting stuff about fetish fashion. Some of the clubs will offer you to join the game; however, you can just watch “like-minded” people that enjoy turning their sexual fantasies into reality.