5 True Facts about BDSM that You Should Know

If you read or watched “50 shades of grey” and think that this is what bdsm is, then you still have no idea what it truly is. While millions of people appreciate the book or the film, BDSM community claims that it is offensive. They say that the film presented the story of an unhealthy relationship and showed unrealistic scenes. This article will give you exact information on what BDSM is and reveals the truest facts about this fetish. To dispel negative about BDSM and find out why so many people are into it, take a look at 5 facts!

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1. What BDSM stands for?

Some people get really aggressive when they hear this word. They have never tried it, probably seen some of the accessories but judge it as something that should be forbidden. However, a lot of people get horny and say they would really like to try bdsm sex games at least once in their life. So, it is time to learn that bdsm stands for (B&D) bondage and discipline, (D&S) dominance and submission, and (S&M) sadism and masochism. Usually, people get into one or two categories and very rare into all three.

2. BDSM does not always involve sex

Clarisse Thorn, the author of The S&M Feminist, explains that BDSM does not always involve sex. She describes it is a massage. It can be very sensual and cause different feelings. Such games do not require people to have sex; however, a lot of couples finish the games by having sex.

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3. People who like BDSM do not enjoy abusing in real life

There is a myth that people who are into bdsm sex were abused in their childhood or like abusing others in normal life. However, their desire to have intense physical sensations has nothing to do with violence. Usually, people who practice this fetish are suppressed or have a high level of stress at work. You may not know but a school teacher can enjoy bdsm very much and find it the greatest way to express emotions. However, in the classroom, this person is very patient and kind.

4. Every play needs a research

It may seem very easy from the first sight but you need to learn how to use every single accessory to provide safe act for hot bdsm experience. Everything what you may see on photos or in videos is not that simple and people who are really into the fetish know what they are doing. For example, one of the things that BDSMers practice is fisting. But do not think that people who love it just put a fist inside someone from the first try. You need to learn to do it very slowly, starting with two fingers and always using lubricants, otherwise, you will end up in the hospital. Use bdsm sites for newcomers and you will see how many rules it has got.

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5. Pain and pleasure are too close

The recent research proved that approximately half of people who were interviewed get sexually aroused after they have been bitten. A lot of women like when men push them on a bed or pull them very close causing a little bit of pain. People enjoy being dominant and submissive as well. Everyone chooses the role depending on the character. Even if you are not into the fetish and do not use bdsm sex toys, you still have a preference to be under or on top of your partner.

If you are single and crave to have a new sex experience, look into bdsm dating sites. You will be able to meet singles with the similar ideas and desires. Do not be shy to express your sexual fantasies and wishes. Find an attractive partner ad discuss what you would like to try (special toys, handcuffs, etc). Mention that it is your first experience. Hopefully, you will enjoy it and discover new body sensations…